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When the Ache Remains

Lessons on Tending to the Unfixable and Finding Beauty Anyway

Contributors

By Lisa Olivera

Formats and Prices

On Sale
Apr 28, 2026
Page Count
256 pages
Publisher
Balance
ISBN-13
9781538773932

Price

$29.00

Price

$39.00 CAD

Format:

  1. Hardcover $29.00 $39.00 CAD
  2. Audiobook Download (Unabridged) $24.99

Psychotherapist and author of Already Enough, Lisa Olivera blends her own personal experience of living with depression with therapeutic wisdom in a moving exploration of the emotional pain each of us lives with, offering readers guidance on holding the ache right beside the beauty

Emotional pain, of all kinds and magnitudes, is part of being human. We’ll never be able to find ourselves free of it; no meditation or amount of therapy will cure us of the harder parts of being alive. The practice of turning toward the ache with care – reverence, even – might be one of the most meaningful gifts we can give ourselves. It might even save us.

Lisa Olivera has confronted this reality for years as a therapist, weaving her exploration of it throughout her popular newsletter, Human Stuff. She asks questions like, how do we confront and tend to the painful parts of being human without letting that pain entirely overtake us? How do we find joy even when depression visits, even when we lose someone we love, even when another war breaks out somewhere in this fragile, brutal world? How do we cultivate aliveness in the midst?

When the Ache Remains traverses these questions for readers in a tender and wise exploration of how ache shapes life, how we can alchemize our pain into medicine, and how presence is accessible even in the midst of difficulty. Blending deeply personal narrative, humanistic psychology, lessons from nature, meditative reminders, and her naturally poetic undertone, Lisa invites readers on a journey alongside her as she explores the impact of depression and the process of learning to tend to it, and all of our aches, in more open, integrative, and loving ways.

Lisa Olivera

About the Author

Lisa Olivera is a writer, author, licensed psychotherapist, mother, and creator of the Human Stuff newsletter. Over the last decade, she has supported thousands of people in remembering their true selves and embracing the multitudes of being human. She has worked in schools, community-based mental health, and private practice, all of which inform her lens of the world. Lisa’s work has been highlighted in publications including The New York Times, The Washington Post, Good Morning America, The Huffington Post, and The Guardian. She has appeared on many podcasts including Adoptees On, Hurry Slowly, and Off the Grid. Her debut book, Already Enough, was published in 2022. She lives in Northern California with her husband, daughter and two cats.

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